I Am Important to Me

I AM IMPORTANT TO ME

How to Spot Red Flags, Set Boundaries, and Choose Yourself

A Guide on How to Find the Right Person to Marry

Before you say “I do” to someone else, learn to say “I choose me.”

The strongest marriages begin long before the wedding day. They begin when you know your worth, recognize unhealthy relationship patterns, establish healthy boundaries, and choose wisely.

I AM IMPORTANT TO ME is a faith-centered guide designed to help singles break free from toxic relationships, emotional baggage, and poor relationship decisions. Whether you are healing from heartbreak, preparing for marriage, or simply committed to becoming the person God created you to be, this book offers practical wisdom rooted in biblical principles.

Rather than encouraging readers to search desperately for “the one,” this book teaches that becoming emotionally healthy, spiritually grounded, and confident in your God-given identity is the surest path toward building a joyful, lasting marriage.

Inside these pages, you’ll learn how to recognize warning signs before they become lifelong regrets, establish boundaries that protect your peace, and make relationship decisions with wisdom instead of emotion.

This is more than a dating guide—it’s a journey of personal transformation.

Inside You’ll Discover

✔ How to recognize relationship red flags before they become heartbreak

✔ The importance of healthy emotional, spiritual, and personal boundaries

✔ Biblical principles for choosing the right spouse

✔ How to overcome fear, rejection, loneliness, and emotional baggage

✔ Practical strategies for developing confidence and self-worth

✔ How to identify healthy relationship characteristics

✔ Why character matters more than chemistry

✔ Common dating mistakes that lead to unhealthy marriages

✔ Communication skills that build strong relationships

✔ Practical reflection questions, exercises, and action plans

✔ Prayer points and biblical encouragement for every stage of your journey

✔ A decision-making framework for choosing wisely before marriage

Perfect For Readers Who Are

• Single men and women seeking God’s direction
• Dating Christians preparing for marriage
• Young adults navigating modern relationships
• Individuals healing from toxic or unhealthy relationships
• Premarital counseling participants
• Church singles ministries
• Small groups and Bible studies
• Parents mentoring adult children about relationships
• Pastors, counselors, and relationship coaches
• Anyone committed to building a Christ-centered marriage

Why This Book Is Different

Many relationship books focus only on finding a partner.

I AM IMPORTANT TO ME begins with the most important relationship you’ll ever have—the one with yourself and your Creator.

When you understand your identity, protect your peace, and refuse to settle for less than God’s best, you are far more likely to build a relationship founded on trust, respect, faith, and lasting love.

Healthy marriages begin with healthy individuals.

Choose healing.

Choose wisdom.

Choose healthy boundaries.

Choose God’s purpose.

Most importantly… choose yourself before you choose your spouse.

From the GOODBYE MARRIAGE Collection

Continue your journey with these companion titles by Vivian Adonai:

• Goodbye Marriage: How to Enjoy Your Marriage
• The Goodbye Marriage Workbook
• Trying Times in Marriage: 52 Devotions for a Joy-Filled Marriage

Together, these four books provide a comprehensive, faith-based resource for navigating every stage of relationships—from singleness and discernment to marriage, growth, restoration, and lifelong spiritual encouragement.